Long Answer: Most women -
70 percent, according Shere Hite's surveys - don't achieve
orgasm
through intercourse alone. So if you're not coming during intercourse,
it just means that a) you're normal, and b) your clit needs more play.
Using a
vibrator for
masturbation can help you become more comfortable with your sexuality
and get you more in tune with the responses of your body and what feels
good to you. However, it may also spoil you a bit, because it makes
climaxing easier than it is with a partner.
You can incorporate the
vibrator into your sex play before or even during intercourse. Have your
partner use it on you, or show your partner how you use it on yourself.
Get yourself good and wet, or go all the way to the edge, and then start
fucking. Bring out the vibrator again for a quick buzz if you need to
get back up to speed. It's not cheating to use a vibe to help you get
off during sex with your partner. Think of it as an augmentation to
intercourse.
Reference Sources:
The Hite Report on Female Sexuality by Shere Hite (1976)
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