Long Answer: When first
trying out a vibrator, many people simply go straight for the clit, or
if it's an insertable vibrator, straight for the vagina. Everybody's
different. Experiment with using the vibrator on different parts of your
clit, vulva, and vagina, and discover what feels best. You may find you
like a few different things. Try adding some water-based lube and see if
that improves your sensation.
You might have a vibrator
that doesn't provide the right kind of stimulation for you. Maybe you
need one that gives less intense or more intense stimulation. If you
think the vibrator you have might be too intense, try using it through
your clothing, or through a towel or blanket. If you have a vibrator
that barely buzzes, try getting a more powerful electrical one, such as
an Hitachi Magic Wand or a coil massager.
Consider when and how
you're using the vibrator. Are you relaxed and in the right frame of
mind for a sensual experience? Make a special time to use your vibrator,
when you know you won't be disturbed, and give yourself the luxury of
exploring and letting go. Maybe you need a little additional stimulation
in the form of erotica, videos, or just fantasies. It's often said that
the biggest sex organ is between your ears. You can't just flip the
switch and expect the vibrator to do all the work.
If after all this, you
still find yourself unable to climax, talk to your doctor. Stress and
depression, as well as other physical conditions, may be making it hard
to come. If you are taking medications, especially antidepressants,
these may also affect your ability to reach orgasm.
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