To have the best experience with your vibrator, give yourself some time with it. Get relaxed and turned on before you actually switch the vibrator on. Experiment with your vibrator, try its different features, and apply it to different areas of your genitals to see what the sensations are like. Most women respond to clitoral stimulation, but you may prefer more or less intensity, or more or less direct stimulation. The labia and vulva are also sensitive.

If your vibrator is insertable, give that a try. Some women find penetration and vibration inside the vagina very pleasurable. However, most women need clitoral rather than vaginal stimulation to actually bring them to orgasm, so if vaginal penetration with your vibrator isn't getting you off, go back to using the vibrator on your clit. One technique you can use with an smooth insertable vibrator is to place the tip against your clit, then slide the shaft down between your labia, insert the vibrator and slide it into your vagina, and then bring it back up in a reverse stroke, sliding along the clit again on the way up.

If you're a man trying a vibrator, stroke it along the shaft of your penis and hold it against your glans and the head of your cock. If this is too intense, try placing the vibrator at the base of your balls or pressing it against your perineum (the skin between your balls and ass).

Once you discover what feels good, keep doing it, relax, and let your arousal build. If you find that the vibrator brings you to the point of climaxing too quickly, back off and try a less intense form of stimulation, or even use your hand for a while and go back to the vibrator. After you climax, take a break and go for round two, using the vibrator at a lower intensity if you're sensitive. Just because a vibrator can get you off quickly doesn't mean you have to rush yourself.