Long Answer: There really
isn't any "right" way to use a vibrator or to bring yourself to orgasm.
The most important thing to remember is that a vibrator is a tool to
help you stimulate yourself; while it can help you reach a climax, it's
not an instant orgasm machine. You control it and use it in the way that
feels best to you.
To have the best experience with your
vibrator, give yourself some time with it. Get relaxed and turned on
before you actually switch the vibrator on. Experiment with your
vibrator, try its different features, and apply it to different areas of
your genitals to see what the sensations are like. Most women respond to
clitoral stimulation, but you may prefer more or less intensity, or more
or less direct stimulation. The labia and vulva are also sensitive.
If your vibrator is
insertable, give that a try. Some women find penetration and vibration
inside the vagina very pleasurable. However, most women need clitoral
rather than vaginal stimulation to actually bring them to orgasm, so if
vaginal penetration with your vibrator isn't getting you off, go back to
using the vibrator on your clit. One technique you can use with an
smooth insertable vibrator is to place the tip against your clit, then
slide the shaft down between your labia, insert the vibrator and slide
it into your vagina, and then bring it back up in a reverse stroke,
sliding along the clit again on the way up.
If you're a man trying
a vibrator, stroke it along the shaft of your penis and hold it against
your glans and the head of your cock. If this is too intense, try
placing the vibrator at the base of your balls or pressing it against
your perineum (the skin between your balls and ass).
Once you discover what
feels good, keep doing it, relax, and let your arousal build. If you
find that the vibrator brings you to the point of climaxing too quickly,
back off and try a less intense form of stimulation, or even use your
hand for a while and go back to the vibrator. After you climax, take a
break and go for round two, using the vibrator at a lower intensity if
you're sensitive. Just because a vibrator can get you off quickly
doesn't mean you have to rush yourself.